Struggling to find your village? Here’s how to build a mom community that feels like home.
Why Every Mom Needs a Village and The Impact of Community
We are not meant to do this alone! For thousands of years, our ancestors raised their babies in the family unit. If Grandma, Auntie, Sister, Mother, weren’t around or they weren’t able to help us, other women from neighbouring families would step in to help. That’s just the way we’ve always done it.
Up until very recently, as Baby Boomers started to have children, did the concept of “it takes a village to raise a child” really went out the window. In a bid for self-discovery and a pull away from old traditions in favour or new convenient explorations, Baby Boomers have shirked their title of Grandma for something cooler, younger sounding, and less attached, like Gigi, Mimi, etc.
I don’t think it was a malicious move towards abandoning their daughters, but a hope that this new post-war world they grew up in, wasn’t as hard as it was for their parents and their parents before them, so they thought we’d be ok.
The truth is, we’re not ok.
Even the data backs it up. Women are suffering.
What I hear from women consistently is that they feel alone, overwhelmed, and lonely in their motherhood journey, especially in the early days.
This is exactly why I created the Radical Mother Gathering, so no woman has to feel alone again!
3 Ways to Attract Like-Minded Moms into Your Social Circle
Building your village is crucial for navigating motherhood and it’s not going to build itself! So you have to do a bit of hard work and put yourself out there to find those like-minded moms and start creating meaningful connections with women who truly get YOU. Here are 3 ways to get you started.
Be Authentic About Who You Are and What You Need
When you are just being you, you glow! Authenticity acts like a magnet, and draws people who align with your values and your energy, even when it’s zapped postpartum. Don’t be afraid to put it out there that you might be struggling, or loving it, or want something different than what you have going on right now. It creates space for deeper connection and genuine conversation. When you come to one of our gatherings, don’t worry about trying to fit in, ask for what you need from the conversation. Do you need emotional support? Advice? Or just some company? I love a script - so here’s something you could say
“Hi, I’m _________ and my baby ___________ is ________ months old, I’ve been craving a community of moms who are into holistic wellness - anyone else feel this way?”
Boom! Instant friendships will emerge.
Seek out Intentional Gatherings
When you have a focused community, like our Radical Mother Gatherings, you know what you’re getting into. We share the same goals and values! Purposeful spaces like ours, cut out the guess work as to whether these are going to be your new mom friends. Look for groups the use language that you love, we use “like-minded” and “radical” to indicate a more holistic take on motherhood. Of course, the radical is ironic, because we’re not doing anything crazy over here, just a natural and holistic approach to motherhood. Don’t be afraid to try them it and see if they work for you. Maybe you don’t know what kind of direction you’re ready for yet. But you won’t know until you try!
Create the Village
Sometimes the best way to create community is to do it your damn self! I know I did! Take the led girl! Put your business out there and create a space for conversation. Go out for coffee, a walk, or do a phone call. Maybe even invite a mom into your at-home chaos -chances are they are totally game and don’t care about the mess. They want your company just as much as you want theirs! If you join us online, I encourage you to take into the real word! Many of our Radical Moms create their own hangouts outside of Thursdays. That’s what it’s all about.
What to feels like to find community in the Radical Mother Gathering
"At my first RMG I had the feeling of relief realizing I’d finally found my like minded mamas! I gained comfort and a sense of ease in knowing I have judgement free support and resources anytime at my fingertips thanks to this community of amazing mamas"
—Cheyenne, Radical Mama
Motherhood isn’t meant to be a journey you walk alone. The right community can be the foundation for emotional resilience, personal growth, and that deep sense of belonging you’ve been craving. By taking small steps to show up authentically, seeking out intentional communities, and doing the work of meeting up outside of group, you can start to see your circle grown in beautiful and unexpected ways!
Why wait to start?
The Radical Mother Gathering is here to offer you exactly that! A circle of like-minded women who are ready to support, uplift, and grow together Every Thursday we create a safe space for moms to connect, laugh, and share. This is your chance to build your village and take that first step towards real connection.
Are you ready to find your people?
Click here to learn more and join us at the next Radical Mother Gathering.
Your community is waiting - show up just as you are and let’s grow together!